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Dating is full of paradoxes, and the sooner we as men understand these paradoxes, the more pleasant our dating experiences will become. In this blog, I want to work through five of the major paradoxes, and how we can use them to our advantage—or ensure they don’t work to our disadvantage. 1) Past and Future Men are fixated on women's pasts, while women focus on men's futures. When we start dating, we are dying to know how many sexual partners they have had. We desire women who are sexually available to us but recoil at the thought that they've been equally available to others. Remember, if she is getting down and dirty with you, chances are you’re neither the first nor the last. How to use this: Don’t obsess about her "notch count"—it will only drive you mad. 2) Stud and Slut Men with many sexual partners are hailed as studs, while women with similar histories are labeled sluts. This double standard is likely to persist. Asking a partner about their past can backfire—showing insecurity and seldom yielding honest responses. My advice: Don't ask. There’s nothing to gain and everything to lose. 3) Time is Relative For men, time is a friend; for women, a foe. Women feel a biological push to "nest" and their fertility peaks in their 20s, then declines. Men, however, can become more attractive as they age, often becoming more financially stable, which is highly valued. What this means: Patience is a virtue for men. As time enhances your stability and appeal, it may increase your desirability. Conclusion: Embracing these paradoxes with a light heart and clear understanding can transform dating from a nerve-wracking puzzle into an intriguing journey. Understanding each other's pressures and timelines helps in building a relationship that’s based on respect and realistic expectations, rather than societal stereotypes and biological anxieties. #DatingParadox #ModernRomance #RelationshipRealTalk #LoveAndLogic #DatingTipsForMen #UnderstandHerPast #EmbraceTheFuture #PatiencePays #BiologicalClock #SexualDoubleStandards #DatingHumor #RomanceReality #DatingDosAndDonts #OlderMenCharm #SecureYourFuture #NoNotchCount #TimeIsRelative #DatingDynamics #EvolutionaryBiology #SexualMarketValue

What do most men crave? Power, money, influence? Yes, these trophies glitter on the mantelpiece of male desires. We yearn to be seen, recognized, respected—and, at the very least, not to have our parking tickets laughed at by the attendant. But why this insatiable hunger for affirmation? While I’m no Freudian scholar, I suspect it's not just because we love our mothers. According to a rather simplistic reading of Freud, our actions aren’t propelled by the cool, rational calculations of our conscious minds but by the roaring fires of subconscious desires. And let’s face it, the central heating system of these desires is often fueled by libido. Here's a less comfortable truth: pornography has sculpted the internet more significantly than any Silicon Valley innovation. Although only 4% of websites are dressed in neon lights and scant attire, they attract more than a third of internet bandwidth, with a predominantly male audience. This illuminates a stark reality: male sexual desire is not just massive; it's colossal. So, where does the issue lie? Well, women hold the keys to the gates of sensual paradise. Why swarm to online dating apps? Despite the polite chat about seeking 'companionship' and 'intimacy,' at the end of the day, it often boils down to the pursuit of sex, and women are the gatekeepers. They decide who enters the proverbial Eden and who gets banished to the land of eternal handholding. As women advance in society—climbing corporate ladders, bagging degrees, and outpacing us in job markets—the pool of 'datable' men shrinks. Women, often hypergamous, look across and up the socio-economic ladder for partners, narrowing the field for men. As men become generally less attractive to women, more men find themselves peering wistfully through the gates, excluded from paradise. Those who do manage to stumble in often resort to desperate measures to remain. This includes enduring manipulative behavior ranging from subtle belittlement to the less subtle devastation of infidelity. Instead of confronting such behavior, some men reinforce it, driven by a deep-seated fear of losing their place in the kingdom. This creates a paradox: the more men tolerate such behaviors, the more it empowers women to continue. The counterintuitive solution? Men must stand up, call out negative behaviors, and set firm boundaries. Surprisingly, instead of driving their partners away, setting boundaries might just bring them closer. In this tragic comedy of modern love, perhaps the real power lies not in enduring the bad but in daring to demand the good. #ModernLove #DatingDynamics #OnlineDating #RelationshipGoals #MenAndWomen #SocialDynamics #PowerPlay #LoveAndRespect #DatingTips #RomanticRealities #GatekeepersOfLove #SocietalShifts #GenderRoles #Hypergamy #InternetCulture #FreudianSlip #SexualDesire #SetBoundaries #HealthyRelationships #LoveInDigitalAge

Adult men entering the dating world might feel like they've been dropped into a minefield blindfolded. This blog aims to serve as a friendly guide, complete with a metaphorical bomb suit, to help men start building a solid foundation for future relationships. Here’s a humorous look at why the landscape of love often feels like a tough mudder challenge for men. 1) The Mother of All Misconceptions We men have a skewed view of love, molded by our first love—our mothers. Mom loved us whether we were angelic or little monsters. She fed us, cleaned us, and showered us with affection. No woman in our adult lives will ever match this unconditional love, which leads to a real shocker when we realize that our partners might actually expect us to pick up our socks or (gasp!) share the remote control. 2) The Loyalty Misfire For many men, loyalty is akin to signing up for the military. It’s all about duty and honor. We carry this over to relationships expecting a partner to be our comrade-in-arms. However, women often align loyalty with their emotions. If their feelings change, they might redeploy to more emotionally favorable territories, leaving us bewildered on the love battlefield. 3) The Transactional Tangle According to the sage wisdom of comedian Chris Rock, men fear that losing their job is akin to losing their woman. In tough times, a partner might say, “don’t worry, baby, we’ll get through this.” But what she’s really saying might be closer to, “if we need to get rid of some dead weight, I’ve got a list ready, and you are on top of that list.” It’s crucial to understand that relationships might need more than just emotional investment—they need upkeep and mutual benefits, less you find yourself outsourced. 4) The Romantic Role Reversal Common myth: women are the romantics. Reality check: men are the hopeless romantics. Who do you think wrote “All You Need Is Love”? Men have authored the majority of mushy love songs. We’re the ones who believe in soulmates and that one perfect person who completes us—while also believing that our love for our woman might just rival our affection for our beloved combine harvester. Conclusion Navigating the dating scene isn’t easy, but understanding these quirks can arm you with the tools needed to forge stronger, more realistic relationships. Remember, gents, the path to true love is never a straight line—it’s more of an obstacle course that requires a good sense of humor, a dash of reality, and maybe a good pair of running shoes. #DatingMinefield #MenInLove #RomanticMen #TrueLove #DatingHumor #LoveBattles #MotherlyLove #LoyaltyTests #TransactionalLove #ChrisRockWisdom #LoveSongs #Soulmates #CombineHarvesterLove #RelationshipGoals #MenVsWomen #RomanticRoleReversal #LoveObstacleCourse #DatingGuide #NavigatingLove #FunnyDatingTips

Understanding your strength level can help tailor your fitness goals and routines. This blog outlines a comprehensive strength test for men, featuring exercises from various categories such as weightlifting, core stability, upper body strength, and endurance activities like running and swimming. Each exercise will be used to classify your strength as below average, average, or above average. 1. Weightlifting Exercises Weightlifting is a key component in assessing strength. We'll focus on two fundamental lifts: Deadlifts: This exercise measures lower body and back strength. For an average rating, aim to deadlift 1.5 times your body weight. Above average would be lifting twice your body weight or more. Squats: Essential for evaluating leg and core strength. Average strength can be gauged if you can squat your body weight. To be considered above average, you should be able to squat 1.5 times your body weight. 2. Core Exercises A strong core is vital for overall fitness: Planking: Holding a plank for 1-2 minutes indicates average core strength. Above average strength would be demonstrated by sustaining a plank for over 3 minutes. Push-ups: Completing 20-40 push-ups in one go is average, while doing more than 60 signifies above average upper body and core strength. 3. Upper Body Strength Upper body conditioning can be assessed with the following: Pull-ups: Performing 5-10 pull-ups is considered average. More than 15 pull-ups categorize you as above average. Bench Press: Pressing your own body weight is the benchmark for average strength. Lifting 1.5 times your body weight or more is an indicator of above average strength. 4. Running Endurance and leg strength can also be measured by your running capability: 1 Mile Run: Finishing a mile in 8 minutes is average. A 6-minute mile would classify you as having above average endurance and speed. 5. Swimming Swimming tests overall body strength and endurance: 500 Meters Freestyle: Completing this distance in 15 minutes is typical for average strength swimmers. Cutting this time down to 10 minutes or less indicates an above average fitness level. 6. Additional Exercises To provide a broader assessment, consider including: Rowing: A 2000-meter row in 8 minutes is considered average; 7 minutes or less is above average. Cycling: A 20 km ride in 40 minutes reflects average strength and endurance; 30 minutes or less shows superior capabilities. Conclusion This strength test covers a wide range of exercises to help you determine where you stand in terms of physical fitness. It's essential to approach this test with caution, especially if you are new to exercise or have any health concerns. Always warm up properly and consider consulting with a fitness professional to ensure that you perform each exercise safely and effectively. By engaging with this test periodically, you can monitor your progress and set realistic goals to improve your physical strength and overall health. Remember, fitness is a personal journey, and improvement takes time and dedication. #StrengthTest #FitnessChallenge #MensHealth #Weightlifting #CoreStrength #UpperBodyWorkout #RunningCommunity #SwimmingWorkout #PushUpsChallenge #PullUpsChallenge #Deadlifts #SquatDay #BenchPress #FitnessGoals #EnduranceTraining #StrengthTraining #GymLife #FitnessMotivation #GetStrong #FitMen

Men are screaming for meaning in life, not just for the remote control. It’s no surprise that radical religious groups snag recruits faster than a Black Friday sale—they’re pitching a purpose, a 'buy one, get eternal salvation free' kind of deal. They offer a ticket to join their crusade, a cause they deem worth more than the last slice of pizza—perhaps even worth dying for. Nature abhors a vacuum much like my mother-in-law despises silence at family dinners. In the absence of purpose, something’s bound to fill it up. Sometimes it’s a fanatical belief, but more often, it’s activities masquerading as traditional male roles. So, what's on the traditional male role menu? Being a provider, a father, and a protector. The usual order is: get a job, father some kids (preferably within marriage), and defend your family, community, or country. But what’s the modern man’s daily special? It’s spending life indoors playing video games, downloading enough porn to embarrass a Playboy editor, and trading online. These digital delusions trick their brains into thinking they’re fulfilling age-old male roles. Playing "Call of Duty" is believed to be defending territory, watching porn is mistaken for procreating, and online trading feels like providing. Sure, they know deep down that mistreating themselves won’t impregnate a pornstar, but it’s a convincing enough bluff to keep the charade going. The decline in religious interest has also expanded the purpose void. Despite its flaws, organized religion excelled at making people feel like a small fry in a big cosmic ocean, not in a 'you’re worthless' kind of way, but in a 'you’re a tiny piece of a huge puzzle' kind of way. Under the vastness of the universe and the infinity of eternity, we’re just specks. This perspective can be quite liberating—like realizing your bad hair day isn’t the worst thing happening on the planet. In our meritocracy, we’re spoon-fed the belief that we can be demi-gods. A socially awkward kid from the southern tip of Africa can become the richest person in the world, a reality TV star can become the president, and an Austrian immigrant who can barely say 'California' can become its governor. But, waking up is hard when you're supposed to be seizing the day and you can't even find the snooze button. Religion, for all its shortcomings, gave us a sense of belonging and perspective. Back when we lived in villages, at least Bob could boast about being from the Amazing Whisky Village. Now, we're Bob from apartment 3B, heating up TV dinners and binging Netflix until we pass out. So, what’s the solution? Join a tribe of like-minded men. Welcome to the High Value Tribe—based in Johannesburg, we’re a brotherhood rediscovering and reclaiming masculinity through direct action and community projects. We’re more than a group; we're a movement devoted to real change. At High Value Tribe, we rise above the mundane—transcending politics, race, and religion—to forge a culture of resilience and impact. Join us and build a legacy of strength and community betterment! #HighValueTribe #ManUp #Brotherhood #PurposeDriven #CommunityImpact #RealMenRealChange #MasculinityMatters #BeyondDigital #FindYourTribe #PurposeOverPixels #ActionNotWords #LegacyBuilders #StrengthInUnity #RedefineRoles #FromBoysToMen #NoMoreNetflix #RiseAbove #TraditionalRoles #FightTheVoid #MenWithPurpose

High-value men embody strong masculine qualities such as courage, confidence, assertiveness, and problem-solving prowess. We step into our masculinity by taking on responsibilities and striving for mastery in various areas of life. However, there are times when it's crucial to step back from these instincts, especially when a friend is in crisis. Recently, I found myself struggling through a rough patch. Minor irritations were infuriating me to an unreasonable degree. One day, while approaching a four-way stop near my office, I noticed several police officers ahead. In my frustration, I disregarded the stop sign and drove straight through—unsurprisingly, I was pulled over. When the officer approached, I didn’t bother to explain or negotiate; I simply told him to write the ticket. My behavior was uncalled for, and he responded to my attitude as one might expect. This incident was just the latest in a series of anger-fueled moments. Feeling lonely and isolated in a new city, overwhelmed by recent social letdowns—including a disastrous date and a friend who seemed to be ignoring me—I reached out to one of my closest friends. Bless him, he spent the next thirty minutes suggesting solutions to my problems. However, what I really needed at that moment wasn’t solutions—I just needed to vent. I wanted to express my frustrations without seeking answers, something that men often struggle with. We are inherently problem-solvers, conditioned to respond to challenges with solutions. This is especially true when we see our loved ones distressed; our first instinct is to fix the situation. However, when it comes to personal issues—like feelings of sadness, loneliness, anger, or frustration—the most supportive thing we can do is simply listen. If a friend approaches you with a business dilemma or needs strategic advice, by all means, offer your insights. But if they're sharing personal struggles, it's crucial to let them do most of the talking. Allow them the space to unload their burdens without jumping in with advice. Offer a few words of assurance if necessary, but primarily, your role is to listen and be present. Avoid suggesting they go to therapy, increase their meditation, exercise more, or just "cheer up." These may all be valuable in their own right, but in the moment of emotional distress, what your friend likely needs most is to feel heard and supported without immediate judgment or solutions. By understanding when to offer solutions and when to simply provide a supportive ear, we can truly step into our role as high-value men—not just through our strengths in leadership and problem-solving, but also in our capacity for empathy and understanding. #MentalHealthAwareness #MensHealth #EmotionalSupport #ListenMore #Empathy #FriendshipGoals #Vulnerability #Masculinity #SelfCare #Understanding #PersonalGrowth #HealthyMasculinity #SupportiveFriends #TalkItOut #MenSupportingMen #DeepConversations #NoJudgment #BeThere #TrueFriendship #EmpatheticListening

Loyalty in relationships, particularly between men and women, is a complex and multifaceted topic. While some suggest that men and women inherently experience and express loyalty differently, it's important to approach these perspectives with a nuanced understanding rather than broad generalizations. Historically, men have often been compared to dogs in their loyalty, suggesting a straightforward, duty-bound nature. This analogy is sometimes extended to explain why men dominate fields like the military, where duty and loyalty are paramount. Men might express their loyalty in relationships, whether with friends or partners, as a sense of duty, which can sometimes lead to misunderstandings. Women, on the other hand, are sometimes said to express loyalty in ways that align closely with their emotions and instincts. From an evolutionary standpoint, the theory goes, women have had to rely on building a reliable support network to navigate the challenges of child-rearing and survival, especially during the era of hunters and gatherers. This instinctual drive to seek supportive relationships is suggested to still influence women's relational dynamics today. However, the landscape of modern relationships and societal roles has evolved. Millions of single mothers, for example, successfully raise children independently, demonstrating both strength and self-sufficiency. Yet, the argument that women are guided primarily by evolutionary instincts in their relationships might oversimplify the depth of human emotions and societal influences. A common scenario illustrates these complexities: consider a relationship where one partner faces a terminal illness. It's posited that a man might see it as his duty to support his partner, aligning with traditional notions of masculine loyalty. Conversely, there's a stereotype that a woman might be more likely to leave if she no longer feels the relationship meets her emotional or support needs. This stereotype feeds into the concept of female hypergamy, which suggests that women seek partners who are equal or higher in socio-economic status. Discussing hypergamy can be sensitive because it risks sounding misogynistic. It's crucial to recognize that while some women may seek socio-economic security in relationships, this is not a universal truth and does not capture the full range of women's capacities for love and loyalty. Relationships, for many, are deeply personal and emotional, beyond just transactional needs. Similarly, men's loyalty, which is often portrayed as unconditional and duty-bound, may also be influenced by personal needs and desires. Both men and women can experience and prioritize a range of factors in relationships, including emotional fulfillment, personal growth, and mutual support. In conclusion, relationships are as diverse as the individuals within them. Men and women may experience and express loyalty in varied ways that are influenced by personal history, cultural expectations, and individual personality, not solely by gender. It's important for us to understand and respect these nuances as we navigate our relationships. #RelationshipDynamics #UnderstandingLoyalty #GenderRoles #ModernRelationships #LoveAndDuty #EmotionalSupport #EvolutionaryPsychology #MenAndWomen #RelationshipGoals #RelationshipInsights #LoyaltyInLove #HypergamyDiscussion #SocietalRoles #DeepConnections #HealthyRelationships #RelationshipMyths #NavigatingLove #GenderDifferences #EmotionalIntelligence #CulturalExpectations

Loneliness can be perilous, not only for society at large but also on a deeply personal level. Often, when we discuss loneliness among men, our minds might jump to extreme cases, such as mass shooters or the phenomenon of 'incels' (involuntary celibates). These groups, feeling rejected and misunderstood by society, sometimes channel their frustration in harmful ways. However, the spectrum of loneliness encompasses much more than these severe manifestations. The Hidden Dangers of Male Loneliness While societal focus might gravitate towards men who externalize their loneliness through violence, we must also consider those who turn their struggle inward. Men under 45 are especially vulnerable to suicide, making it the leading cause of death in this group. Yet, there's another, less discussed danger: the rush into potentially toxic relationships due to a desperate need for connection. A Personal Journey Through Post-Divorce Loneliness Let me share a part of my story. After my divorce at 49, I realized that many of my friendships were contingent upon my marital status. Married for 18 years, the end of my marriage also signaled the dissipation of most social ties, which were largely connected through my ex-wife. The myth of the "amicable divorce" aside, the reality was a feeling of isolation and a bruised self-perception. Men, generally less skilled at cultivating lasting friendships than women, often find themselves floundering in such situations. With no substantial social networks to fall back on, many turn to dating apps to fill this void—a solution that is less about forming genuine connections and more about seeking immediate validation. The Illusion of Online Dating On dating platforms, the rush of getting a match can falsely boost self-esteem. Compliments from strangers might make us feel seen and valued, mistaking temporary attention for lasting affection. Here, it’s crucial to understand that attraction is often more reflective of the other's current circumstances than a genuine connection. When facing rejection, it's natural to internalize the experience, questioning everything from one's appearance to their worth. Conversely, a match might lead one to feel overly confident about their desirability. But reality is seldom so black and white—attraction, like rejection, is subjective and varies vastly from person to person. The Right Time for Relationships Entering a relationship out of fear of loneliness can lead to compromises on one's standards and may result in codependency. The healthiest relationships are formed not out of desperation, but from a place of self-respect and acceptance of one's single status. It's when we are content with being alone that we are least likely to settle for relationships that do not genuinely enhance our lives. Conclusion: Embracing Solitude, Fostering Genuine Connections Instead of viewing loneliness as a problem to be immediately solved, it can be an opportunity to reconnect with oneself. Cultivating a fulfilling single life is crucial before seeking romantic relationships. This mindset shift is essential for building healthier connections and ensuring that we do not attach our happiness solely to the presence of another person in our lives. This revised version focuses on creating a structured narrative that guides the reader through understanding loneliness, explores personal vulnerability, and concludes with a constructive outlook on relationships and self-worth. #LonelinessAwareness #MentalHealthMatters #LifeAfterDivorce #SelfReflection #HealingJourney #SingleLife #MenAndMentalHealth #Solitude #EmotionalHealth #DatingAfterDivorce #PersonalGrowth #UnderstandingLoneliness #MidlifeCrisis #HealthyRelationships #MensWellness #FindingYourself #LifeTransitions #EmbraceSolitude #MentalWellbeing #NavigatingLoneliness

In 2012 former financial trader turned intellectual, Nassim Nicholas Taleb, coined the phrase antifragile in his book Antifragile - Things that gain from Disorder. He makes an interesting point - there is no word for the opposite of fragile. You may think that "robust" is the opposite of fragile and you would partly be right. A box of bone china is fragile. If you kick it around a bit, you will destroy that china. If you removed that broken china and replaced it with an anvil, and you kicked that around, it will withstand the beating. But would it be the opposite of destroyed? No, the kicking around of the anvil will not change the characteristics of the anvil - it will not make it stronger. Antifragile things get stronger when placed under stress. Muscles are antifragile. When you take them to the gym and put your pectorals under extreme strain by bench pressing your bodyweight, the muscles will get broken down, but then they would repair themselves and come back stronger. If you do that for a couple of months and then increase the weight, those pectorals are going to strengthen and grow until you can comfortably wear that sawn-off tank top to the mall. Vaccines are also antifragile. The flu vaccine will give you just enough of the poisonous disease to immunize your body and make it stronger to resist the real virus. The best example of antifragile can be found in Greek mythology and the Hydra. This demonic-looking reptile creature had multiple heads. When one head was lopped off, another two grew in its place. This beast thrived under stress. So how can you make yourself more antifragile? 1) Intentionally Inject Stress into your Life This advice comes with a health warning - don't do anything stupid like run into a burning building or leap into a burning volcano. I am talking about exposing yourself to positive stress. Ten things come to mind in no particular order: take cold showers, try intermittent fasting, run a marathon, hit the gym, memorize an inspiring poem, walk to the grocery store instead of driving, swim for 15 minutes in a cold lake/ocean/river, go for a run in a nonelectric thunderstorm, go to church, visit an old age home. 2) Start Thinking like a Risk Manager of an Insurance Company What do insurance companies do? They take risks. They embrace volatility and they make money from it. How do they do this? They build contingencies into their business. They ask questions such as what if this happens. Human beings are designed to avoid risk. It has been handed down to us from our caveman ancestors, In our fragile state, we are obsessed with self-preservation. The problem with this is that it forces us into comfort zones and the more comfort we have in our lives, the softer and weaker we become. Point one was the injection of risk into our lives. Point two deals with the risk management of these risks. You need to consider the implications of your actions. What happens if I leave my job to start a new business, what happens if the business takes longer to get off the ground? Maybe you need to build in a buffer/reserve fund to ride you over. Maybe you need to sell that BMW and get a Toyota. Maybe you need to find a cheaper apartment. The more nimble you are, the quicker you can adjust to changing circumstances. 3) Be Flexible and Nimble Big is robust but it is not necessarily antifragile. Large companies such as Kodak are more fragile than smaller companies that can easily pivot. Kodak's strategic failure was due to its inability to adapt to the changing world of digital photography. The Darwinian belief of survival of the fittest is a misnomer - it is the most adaptable that can survive. In your personal life, flexibility is a function of your financial obligations. If you own a large house, and a large mortgage on that house, if you own an expensive timeshare in an exclusive ski resort, if you have four kids in private school, your flexibility is minimal. You are also fragile because your options are limited especially if you are middle-aged and working for a corporation with a fat salary and benefits. Your vulnerability stems from numerous fronts. Firstly, if you are retrenched you may have difficulty finding a new job because of your age and skill set. If you have spent a long time with that corporation, you are probably well skilled in the processes and functions of that specific corporation. These skills are not easily transferable. Not only are you vulnerable from a financial point of view, but also from an emotional one. You are a slave to this job. This corporation has you by the balls. They know you have limited options and that this job is the only way to finance your financial obligations. They can then exploit you and by the time you realise this and are desperately miserable, you realize there is no way out. They have both your emotional and financial future in their hands. This is a highly fragile situation you want to avoid. 4) Remove, do not Add Consider this possibility. The solution to many problems in your life may not be found in the addition of things but the removal of things. If you want to be antifragile, start by removing food from your diet that is known to be bad for you such as sugar, fizzy sugar drinks, processed meats, alcohol, french fries, ice cream, and potato chips. You can also remove those late-night Netflix binges and get to bed earlier to accumulate some high-quality Zs. You could also rip out that Xbox from the wall, put it in its box, and donate it to someone else - after which you can put on your running shoes and go for a run. 5) Barbell Strategy This is a strategy that comes out of financial markets but has some real-life applications. In financial markets, it is the combination of a very risky asset - such as a derivative, and a very low-risk asset such as a cash deposit or a bond. You typically allocate a small percentage to the risky asset and a larger percentage to the low-risk asset. The risky derivative provides you will the potential for outsized returns if the market moves in your favour. But what of the market does not? You are protected because the bulk of your investment is in the low-risk asset. This combination of the safe with the speculative is a necessary condition for antifragility. So how can this play out in real life? You should go crazy things once in a while like go bridge diving, spend some, and find a side gig while working your full-time job. In summary, I would like to quote from the opening of Taleb's book: "Some things benefit from shocks; they thrive and grow when exposed to volatility, randomness, disorder, and stressors and love adventure, risk, and uncertainty. Yet, despite the ubiquity of the phenomenon, there is no word for the exact opposite of fragile. Let us call it antifragile. Antifragility is beyond resilience or robustness. The resilient resists shocks and stays the same; the antifragile gets better". #lifecoach#motivation#lifecoaching#coaching#love#mindset#coach#inspiration#selflove#life#success#selfcare#lifestyle#mentalhealth#mindfulness#personaldevelopment#entrepreneur#goals#happiness#meditation#loveyourself#healing#motivationalquotes#lifequotes#positivevibes#fitness#businesscoach#motivationalspeaker#business

We have all heard the phrase that too much of a good thing is not good. The same is true with food. A new buzzword that is becoming more common online is “superfood”. The problem with all the hype around superfoods is that you are quickly led to believe that the more you eat them, the better they will be for you. That is not always the case. Here are seven “superfoods” that if consumed excessively can be bad for your health. 1) Fatty Fish Salmon, mackerel, and sardines are loaded with omega 3 which is great for your brain and your heart. Many people pop omega 3 supplements on a daily basis in the hope of finding their inner Einstein, or at the very least hoping to lose their car keys so often. The problem with too much omega 3 is that it can cause blood thinning in healthy people. You therefore may want to limit your fatty fish consumption to once or twice a week. 2) Tuna Tuna is also a fatty fish but deserves its own special mention because it contains large amounts of mercury. Mercury is a neurological toxin that can adversely affect your vision, coordination, and your hearing, and speech. Tuna that is older, and therefore larger, tend to be served as premium steaks in restaurants and high-end grocery stores. On account of their age, they have accumulated more mercury. Smaller tuna tends to find its way into the cans and therefore have lower levels of mercury. As oceans become more polluted, so too do mercury levels increase. 3) Cinnamon Cinnamon is delicious. In the cult TV show Seinfeld, Jerry says: “People love cinnamon. It should be on tables at restaurants along with salt and pepper. Anytime anyone says, ‘Oh This is so good. What's in it?’ The answer invariably comes back: cinnamon. Cinnamon. Again and again.” Cinnamon is also known to be high in antioxidants and can fight inflammation and lower blood sugar levels. The problem is that cinnamon contains a compound known as coumarin which may be harmful in large doses. 4) Coffee Coffee is a wonderful beverage that is loaded with antioxidants and other active compounds. It is believed to reduce the risk of liver diseases, type 2 diabetes, and neurodegenerative diseases. Consuming excess coffee, however, which would mean more than 6 cups per day, could lead to insomnia, nervousness, irritability, stomach cramps, heart palpitations, and muscle tremors. 5) Liver Organs are the most nutritious part of an animal, and the liver is the most dense organ in terms of nutrients. It is packed with iron, copper, vitamin B12, and vitamin A. Too much copper is not good for your brain and can increase your risk of Alzheimer's. 6) Cruciferous Vegetables Leafy greens like kale, spinach, arugula, and broccoli have been linked to reduced risk of heart disease and cancer. The problem is that excessive consumption of these greens can hamper your body's ability to absorb iodine, and this can lead to weight gain, dry skin, constipation, and reduced energy levels. 7) Brazil Nuts These nuts are one of the best sources of selenium which helps to make DNA and protect against cell damage and infections. Too much selenium can lead to selenium toxicity which can result in hair loss, memory problems, and digestive issues. The bottom line when it comes to diet is the secret is to eat in a balanced fashion. In order to improve your health, you definitely want to increase your intake of superfoods. The problem is that many people latch onto a handful of superfoods and start to consume them every day. These seven foods mentioned above need to be consumed in moderation because excessive consumption can have negative consequences. #lifecoach#motivation#lifecoaching#coaching#love#mindset#coach#inspiration#selflove#life#success#selfcare#lifestyle#mentalhealth#mindfulness#personaldevelopment#entrepreneur#goals#happiness#meditation#loveyourself#healing#motivationalquotes#lifequotes#positivevibes#fitness#businesscoach#motivationalspeaker#business

What is the first thing that happens when you get stressed? Your gut reacts and it is not positive. Heartburn, indigestion, nausea and vomiting, diarrhea, constipation, and associated lower abdominal pain are common gut reactions to stress. Most of us know this movement from north to south. What most of us don't know is that signals are bidirectional - in other words, your gut also sends signals to your brain. This means that if there is a problem in your gut, that can cause anxiety, stress, and depression. Now you need to know something about serotonin. It is a mega-important hormone because it does the following things (amongst other things): Blood clotting - it helps the body heal quicker Sleep - stimulates parts of the brain responsible for sleep-awake behaviour Mood regulation - reduces feelings of stress and anxiety Guess where 90% of your body’s serotonin is produced? In your gut. This means if you want to be happy, you need to pay attention to the health of your gut. This is how to improve your gut health. Lower stress levels - get out and exercise, meditate, socialise, get high-quality sleep Eat slowly - enjoy your food and try not to wolf it down Drink plenty of water Find out what foods don't work well for your gut Introduce these foods into your diet: High-fiber foods (legumes like black beans and chickpeas; whole grains like oats and quinoa; vegetables like broccoli and asparagus; nuts like almonds and pistachios; fruits like apples and peaches) Garlic Fermented foods like sauerkraut and yogurt We are living in times of high anxiety and depression. We have just come out of a global pandemic and into a war in Ukraine. Inflation is creeping up. Economies are not growing like they used to and people are anxious about their futures. So look after your gut and give yourself a fighting chance of a life of limited stress and anxiety. After all, your gut is your second brain. #lifecoach#motivation#lifecoaching#coaching#love#mindset#coach#inspiration#selflove#life#success#selfcare#lifestyle#mentalhealth#mindfulness#personaldevelopment#entrepreneur#goals#happiness#meditation#loveyourself#healing#motivationalquotes#lifequotes#positivevibes#fitness#businesscoach#motivationalspeaker#business

Our High Value Tribe is built on three pillars - the mind, muscle, and money pillars. The road to high value as a man is the mastery of each pillar. The mind pillar involves mastering your emotions and optimizing your mind. It is the process of transforming your mind into a finely tuned machine that is agile and sharp. It is the process of continual learning and the acquisition of knowledge. There are two ways we become wise - through learning from our lives and learning from the lives of others. Reading transports you into the minds of others and is pivotal in your journey to high value. Here are seven reasons you should read every day. 1) Learn from Great Men and Women You get to learn in a few hundred pages what great men and women took a lifetime to learn. If you want to learn how to be a leader, don't go to the Harvard Business Review. Instead go to the core and feast on the words of Churchill, Kennedy, Mandela, and Julius Caesar. 2) Connect to the Wisdom of the Past Reading is a conversation with the wisdom of the past. The Stoic Xeno went to the Oracle and was told that he would become wise when he started to have conversations with the dead. 3) Stimulate Your Brain Reading is like taking your brain to the gym. It keeps it agile and active which allows it to retain its power and capacity. Holistic living involves exercising all your muscles, not just the ones below the neck. 4) Reduces Stress There is nothing more stressful than believing you are the center of the universe and all life revolves around you. Reading opens you up to the outside world - it puts your life in context and reduces the pressure of living. 5) Improves your Memory Humans use only a portion of the brain's capacity. Reading helps to create new brain pathways or synapses. It increases the reserve of knowledge off of which you can draw in finding solutions for everyday problems. 6) Better Focus Social media has made us unfocused and distracted. Committing to reading 30 minutes a day helps you win back some of the focus that modern life has taken away. 7) Teaches You How to Write There are few things more powerful than the skill of writing. Writing is organized thinking. It helps you communicate with the outside world and communicate with yourself through journaling. You want to commit to a minimum amount of time or pages of reading every day. There is only one rule, don't read the news - it is full of sensationalism designed to titillate and terrify rather than educate and enlighten. #lifecoach#motivation#lifecoaching#coaching#love#mindset#coach#inspiration#selflove#life#success#selfcare#lifestyle#mentalhealth#mindfulness#personaldevelopment#entrepreneur#goals#happiness#meditation#loveyourself#healing#motivationalquotes#lifequotes#positivevibes#fitness#businesscoach#motivationalspeaker#business